A natural reaction to a problem in our lives is to turn to escapism. That is when we try to escape the problem by ignoring it, pushing it to the very back of our minds as we remind ourselves to focus on the things right in front of us. We want to distract ourselves from the problem we’re facing and a part of us hopes that it might, just might, go away completely if we don’t directly deal with it.
I’m not saying I’m any different to the next person. I’ve tried to escape a problem that’s silently crept into my life. Sometimes we don’t see it coming and all of a sudden it’s right there, staring us in the face as if challenging us to react and do something about it. But instead of taking a step towards it, accepting the challenge to prove that we’re the bigger person, we take two steps back. And because the problem is still in sight, we take another two and keep doing this until it’s out of sight.
Out of sight out of mind, right? Isn’t that supposed to mean that if we can’t see it, we shouldn’t be thinking about it? That it should be wiped from our minds just because it’s not in our vision? That we’re just going to magically forget all about it because we’ve taken so many steps back until we can’t see it anymore?
When it’s right in front of us, I wish we could be more brave. So incredibly brave that we don’t feel threatened by its presence and sort the problem out before it plays at the back of our minds for a long time to come. I wish we could all proudly say that we’re quick to resolve problems when faced with them and that we’re not so childish and naïve to believe that they will go away on their own, creeping back into the darkness without a resolution.
I wish we weren’t so afraid to solve the problems that we’re constantly faced with. We’re always told that life throws curveballs at us, and sometimes those curveballs develop into problems, so why do we still try to run away? We know that everything we run from will catch up with us in the end. We know there’s no chance of hiding from such things. So if we know this, why do we still go against this logic and run away? Do we ever really fool ourselves into thinking that it won’t find us if we don’t want it to? Do we really think we have control and power of things like that? And if we think about it, has there ever been a time in our lives where that kind of response has actually worked for us and resulted in the problem disappearing, leaving us to live happily ever after?
It becomes a big game of procrastination. We put it to the back of our minds and try not to think about it. But we know it’s there and we can’t shake that feeling, no matter how much we try or wish we could remove it completely. We’re told from a young age that procrastination gets us nowhere. We’re told this at school about things like doing your homework (or lack there of) or simple jobs around the house for your parents. We begin to understand this and we know the logic behind it. But the irony is that when it comes to problems of life, all we do is procrastinate. No matter how far we’ve made it pathing our own path in this world, that will still be our natural response to dealing (or not dealing) with problems in our lives.
I wish we all knew better. I wish we could be better. I wish we could be brave.
Lucy Rebecca x