I have some amazing news which I’m so excited to share with you! Now it’s still early days and I don’t want to jinx anything, but I couldn’t not write about something that makes me so happy every single day.
In short: I have met the most amazing man. Well, technically we’ve known each other for a few years but we only just reconnected a few months ago as we lost touch between then and now. Even so, we’ve spent the last little while getting to know each other again (even more so than we did before) and have grown very close. As of yesterday, we said our first of those three little words to each other, and I could not feel more happy or content right now. Note: For the rest of the story we’ll call him H.
I know we’ve all had romances that haven’t worked out in our lives (probably heaps if we’re being honest), but ever since I’ve fallen for H I’ve started to understand why those romances did not work and why those people were not right for me. I have had some absolute shockers, believe me, but even so there has always been a part of me that has been devastated and utterly confused as to why it wasn’t working. Despite knowing this in my gut, I tried and tried to make it right in hope that it would magically sort itself out and we would become soulmates, somewhat. I guess that little hopeless romantic inside me is always just wanting it to work out, even when it’s evident it’s not meant to be. In fact, I wrote a blog post not too long ago which is almost like an overview of some of my disastrous situations and how it had left me feeling so disheartened.
H, however, is unlike any of those other men of my past. He is different in very sense of the word. He treats me like I’m a rare gem; something to be looked after and treated with so much care and love. He sees my worth, my value and he knows that I deserve only the best. He’s there for me when I need him and never hesitates to tell me how he feels. In all honesty, I’ve never come across a man who is so open and honest with hisfeelings, as usually I’m the one doing this while he stays silent and chooses to keep me in the dark. I love the fact that he’s not afraid to show me his vulnerable, emotional side and he doesn’t pretend to be anything he’s not.
Another thing which I absolutely love and appreciate is the fact that we share the same core values and want the same things out of life. I probably don’t need to say why this is so important in a relationship, but it should still be noted as plenty of others in my past did not share my values and it truly highlighted our differences as individuals. In other words, it’s incredibly difficult to have a future if your core values don’t align. H and I had this discussion quite early on in the piece, but I’m glad we didn’t wait as it actually helped to establish our compatibility from the get go and as cheesy as it sounds, it was a time of bonding and connecting between two like-minded people.
In my opinion, it’s never too soon to find out whether you are compatible and if you have a future or not based on each other’s core values and visions for life. On the contrary, I have been in a situation when the values discussion was brought up after a year, only to discover that we had completely different visions for life and our values were polar opposites. In retrospect, I can’t help but feel like it was pretty much a waste of time as we never really had a future together, unbeknown to me.
H is someone who I can most definitely picture a future with. He actually told me this on the same day that we had our discussion of values (thus further proof of my point above), and I couldn’t have agreed with him more. I don’t want to sound like I’m jumping the gun, but he’s exactly the sort of man I’ve always dreamed of marrying and hoped I would, one day. He’s the sort of man who I feel confident would be an amazing husband and father to our two or three kids (funnily enough, we both want a girl first). He’s the sort of person I’ve always seen myself with but because of past disappointments, had began to doubt if he was really out there.
At the risk of sounding cheesy and totally in love again, I honestly feel like he’s the one, or at least the one for me. He makes me feel like all that negativity of the past was worth enduring, because this feels the most amazing thing and going through all of that finally led me to him. Maybe there really is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow for each of us?
Lucy Rebecca x