Standing at a fork in the road, it can be hard to know what path you should walk down as well as what waits for you at the end. This is it: it’s either all of nothing. Now is the time when you have to decide whether you’re in or out, and you don’t have long to make this decision. So what are you supposed to do for the best?
- I’m curious to know what do you find positive and/or negative about blogging from your experience?
There are so many things that come to mind! One major positive, though, would have to be the ability to express myself as well as use it as an outlet for my creativity. Another positive from blogging is that I discovered it’s one of my strengths and passions. One negative is probably how I have a tendency to take other people’s opinions of my writing very personally, such as negative comments.
- How did you start blogging and editing professionally?
I actually started writing on Allwomenstalk as a user and built up a following before it occurred to me to find out if there were any job vacancies for writers. Luckily there was, so I began writing for them professionally, and have since then also become an editor and manager of the community section on the website! So basically I have a couple of different roles which I work under every day or so.
- What are some of your best and worst traits/qualities?
A few of my best qualities would have to be that I’m very caring, kind-hearted and thoughtful. Some of my worst qualities is that I’m extremely stubborn, take most things very personally and can get quite defensive.
- What’s one thing you struggle with?
Physical intimacy. I find this very difficult to do in itself, but it’s also when I’m most vulnerable and so that makes it even harder for me. I must admit I have a tendency to avoid this in relationships as it’s a fear of mine which I’m going to focus on trying to overcome.
- What’s one of your proudest achievements?
How far I’ve come in my career. It might not sound like much of an achievement in comparison to what other people have done, but I’m really proud of myself for finding a way to turn a great passion of my into a career and for finally discovering what it is that I love doing as well as where my strengths lie.
- If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?
I would love to live in many different places for many different reasons, but right now my focus has been on Melbourne. For me it’s like the most ideal place to live, as it’s not far from home in NZ but it also offers so many opportunities and a fresh start.
- What do you think is one of the most important things in life?
Obviously the answer to this will depend on each person, but since you’re asking me I would have to say knowing who you are and owning your identity. For me this means having a deep understanding of yourself as well as having self-respect, self-confidence and self-love.
- What’s the best way to gain more self-confidence if you’re insecure?
The best advice I can give you for this situation would be to take the time to understand what your insecurities are, and then focus on finding ways to overcome them which will then lead you to self-confidence.
- Describe your style
My style has changed a lot over the years! I used to be extremely girly and would wear pink head-to-toe, but in the last few years I’ve definitely gone more edgy, sophisticated, feminine and even a little preppy! My style is a lot of things, really. I love wearing leather jackets, boots, high waisted skirts, off-the-shoulder tops, playsuits and bodycon dresses.
- Do you have a bucket list? If so, what’s on it?
I actually don’t have a bucket list and have never thought to make one! Personally I don’t really have really specific things that I want to do like what you might find on a typical bucket list, instead I have general goals which I’m working towards and hope to happen one day in the future!
- Where do you want to travel to?
Pretty much everywhere! For me it doesn’t get much better than going right around the world and seeing as much as you can while you’re able to!
- How do you feel about social media?
Don’t particularly like it, to be honest. In the past few years I’ve taken a huge step back from most forms of social media in an attempt to separate myself from it. In many ways I would rather go without it, just focus on myself and living my life without social media being any kind of part of it.
- What are some ways to separate yourself from negativity?
Set boundaries! I’ve struggled with this so much in the past, and as a result I ended up feeling so overwhelmed and mentally drained from being around a constant negative source. If it’s a person, you need to set boundaries to ensure their negativity does not start to affect you; it’s your job to protect yourself from all kinds of negativity in this world.
- What are you career ambitions and/or goals?
This is a good question! To be honest the answer to this has been changing over the few years as I try to establish what it is exactly that I want for my career. I would love to keep blogging, writing and editing as I feel these are my strengths as well as my passions and interests.
- What’s one thing not many people know about you?
I used to play soccer when I was younger and actually stuffed up my ankle really bad during a game. This was probably when I was about 8 years old or so (still in Primary school), and I’m about to turn 21 and my ankle is still stuffed! It means that my left foot is not as flexible as my right, it can also start hurting after a long day of walking and I can only wear certain styles of shoes/heels, otherwise my left foot gets very stiff and awkward. I would have to have surgery to get my ankle fixed, but I’ve been putting it off as I’m just so terrified of anything to do with surgery! The thought makes me feel physically weak. To be honest I don’t know if I will actually ever get it fixed.
- Best piece of advice you’ve received?
Your happiness is most important.
I hope you’re having a great week!
I have been quite busy as of lately and as a result haven’t had much spare time to post much, so I thought it would be fun to share a few things that I’m excited about coming up!
Someone asked me a question the other day, and I found myself unable to give them an answer. This doesn’t happen very often, as even though I’m shy and introverted most of the time I can usually come up with something to say, even in a difficult situation. But this was different. The question they asked me was one that I had never stopped to think about. Believe me, more often than not I’m over-thinking a situation, considering all the aspects, analysing it by nature and finally, coming to a conclusion or answer. But not this time…not about this.
Last week we drove up to Northland and stayed in Coopers Beach: a gorgeous place right next to our last visit to Cable Bay. We drove to different places during the week, stopping by Kerikeri river to visit the Stone store and the Mission House built back in 1822. We also drove to Cable Bay and had a lovely day lying on its golden sand while looking up at the clear blue sky. One place we went back to a few times was Mangonui, a cute town pretty famously known for its yummy fish and chips. Across the road was a cute little café tucked away behind a white picket fence, looking out to stunning views of the ocean just across the road. Overall it was such a lovely holiday and I can’t wait to go back next summer!
How refreshing it is having a new perspective, a new mindset and a new focus. I guess when you think the same way about something for such a long time it becomes all too familiar. I had forgotten how good it felt to re-focus and how exciting and fresh that can be.
So a few days ago I took the Myers Briggs personality test and found that I have the rarest personality type, sharing the INFJ title with only 1% of the entire population. I know you’re probably thinking that the results might not have been accurate, but actually I found the lengthy description of my result summed me up pretty well…a little too well, actually.
I don’t know why but over the last few months I had been having really bad dreams at night. I used to have the occasional bad dream but lately I’ve been having them a lot more frequently that I ever have before. They’re not even just bad dreams, they’re really scary and quite often pretty disturbing. So much so, that I think about them throughout the next day and over the following weeks because they’re still stuck in my head so vividly. Continue reading
Happy New Year! I’m so excited that this is officially my first post for 2017.
The reason I haven’t posted for a while is because I’ve been working on a second website, which will have quite different content to Love, Lucy Rebecca. Since this blog is clearly quite personal to me, I wanted to create another space with different content which others can relate to more and one which is separated from both my personal life and myself in this way.
I’ve started The Sweet Style, which is basically a website intended for young women and will discuss areas such as beauty, fashion, lifestyle and inspiration. But just in case you were wondering, I’ll definitely keep posting on both websites so you can still expect to see posts from me on here as well.
Because I’ve literally only just started my second website and published my very first post, it would mean so much to me if you could follow the link below, have a look and tell me what you think. If you’re interested in the content I’m going on produce on The Sweet Style, please don’t forget to follow/subscribe while you’re there to stay updated and also please tell anyone else who you think might be interested in the content too! It would be so nice to see you following me on both websites and supporting me in this way, regardless of it being personal or more relatable content, plus you would be helping me out hugely!
Please follow the link below to my second website:
I hope you will keep checking The Sweet Style within the following days, weeks and months to see new and exciting content as it’s getting started!
Lucy Rebecca x